Going through a mediator instead of the traditional lawyers and court procedures is a more heart-centered approach to separating.
Today many people are deciding to go through mediation to resolve their disputes and negotiate the terms of their divorce. Mediation is a process in which an impartial third-party, the trained mediator, facilitates the resolution of a dispute by promoting agreements by the parties separating.
Separation and divorce is an emotional time for both sides, whether it was a joint decision or one person made the decision to end the marriage.
Here is a list of 5 reasons to choose mediation over legal court procedures:
- The mediation process isn’t a courthouse environment. It is a safer environment to make plans for your future with a small number of people present.
- Mediation is a private and confidential affair, whereas family court is open to the public and in most cases, many people are in the courtroom.
- Mediation isn’t something viewed to be won, it is a cooperative process between two people that once loved each other. The opposite happens with lawyers and a courtroom. Divorce in the court system is usually thought of as who can win more and is a stressful environment for everyone involved.
- Mediation is less stressful for the children involved in the marriage. Seeing their parents discuss things in a less stressful process has many advantages for children, including less stress for them and a way to learn conflict resolution in a more loving way.
- Mediation costs a lot less than a lawyer and court fees. Saving money is always beneficial in a separation as there are so many other costs involved.
Mediation may not work if you are not willing to let go of things or emotions you are holding on to. Or have a lot of blame, which is never productive especially when you have children together. Of course, blaming is easy to do – we have all been there, but to use mediation we need to move past the blame game.
Mediation is not for every person, but if you can work with the process it can save thousands from court costs, and you will walk away from your relationship with a good feeling of separation and not a feeling of anger and loss.
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